Honouring Our Parents

M.M.M.Ahmed, Editor, Proactive Personality Developer

* Parents deserve our love and respect more than any other human on the face of earth.

* They brought us up when we burst into the world naked and with hungry mouths wide open waiting to be fed.

* Parents often sacrifice their own dreams, wealth and often work way beyond the call of duty to ensure that they give their kids the best in this world.

* Parents painstakingly teach their children to live a life good which will eventually mould the child into a pious adult who is a benefit to society and not a burden.

* In this age it is not uncommon to hear tales of some teens rebelling against their parents and completely ignoring the proper etiquette for treating parents.

* This is a real tragedy that could possibly change the face of parent/child relations for centuries to come.

* Both the parents and the children they bear should be vigilant in preserving their bond at any cost and under any circumstances.

* There is only one instance when a child is allowed to be disobedient towards a parent. And that is in the event that the parent tries to lead the child to a wrong way or attempts to force them to commit an evil deed only then can a child disobey a parent.

* However even then the child is still obliged to educate the parents about the good deeds .

* We can find another wife,another husband, another brother, another sister,another relative, another friend, another son and another daughter.But we cannot,cannot and cannot find another parent.

* Respect, obey and serve parent physically by being close and together before it is too late to do.Just offering money is not enough.

* Remember paradise lies under the feet of mother and father is the main door of the paradise.Do not say from hoon to haan to parent even if they are wrong as per Holy Quran.

12 Tips For The Power Of Obedience To Parent

M.M.M.Ahmed, Editor, Proactive Personality Developer

* The power of obedience to parent takes you to the paradise far away from the hell.

* The power of obedience to parent makes you successful and proactive not reactive in the world.

* The power of obedience to parent gives you a lot of peace of mind .

* The power of obedience to parent gives you a lot of happiness.

* The power of obedience to parent keeps you and your parent healthy.

* The power of obedience to parent gives you respect, fame and wealth.

* The power of obedience to parent gives you good marks and grades in the examinations.

* The power of obedience to parent gives you excellent job with handsome salary.

* The power of obedience to parent gives you a life- partner of your choice.

* The power of obedience to parent gives you obedient children like you.

* The power of obedience to parent gives you higher qualification to make you better human being .

* The power of obedience to parent makes you fearless to go ahead in life and achieve whatever you dream

25 Tips- Never Compare With Each Other

M.M.M.Ahmed, Editor, Proactive Personality Developer

* The Almighty has created every person different for each other.

* Every person has got strong points and weak points.

* Every person has got opportunities and threats.

* Every person has different swot analysis (SWOT- Strength, weakness, opportunities, threats).

* The Almighty has blessed all persons with different things suitable to them.

* The Almighty is the best Judge to decide what is good and what is bad for any person.

* All persons must thank The Almighty always for what they have and don't complain of what they don't have

* Hence never compare your son with others' son

* Hence never compare your daughter with others' daughter.

* Hence never compare your father with others' father.

* Hence never compare your mother with others' mother.

*Hence never compare your brother with others' brother.

* Hence never compare your wife with others' wife.

*Hence never compare your husband with others' husband.

* Hence never compare your sister with others' sister.

* Hence never compare any person with others.

* Hence never compare your child with others' child.

* Hence never compare your girl with others' girl.

* Hence never compare your boy with others' boy.

* Treat different persons differently without being unfair.

* Praise beats criticism. Praise the person and criticism their bad behaviour.

* If you compare you gain nothing and you spoil yourself and others too.

* Exploit the strong points of persons and convert the weak points to strong points.

* If you compare, bad becomes worse and worse becomes the worst.

* If you don't compare , good becomes better and better becomes the best.

Twelve Tips For Early Promotion

M.M.M.Ahmed, Editor, Proactive Personality Developer

* Project positive Energy - Do not be the one to criticize the boss. Be a motivator: the person everyone wants to be around.

* Be Dependable - Do what you say you are going to do. Better yet under- promise and over-deliver.

* Make your Boss look Good - Finish your work on time and with a high level of professionalism. Bring your boss ideas and implement them.

* Own up - Take responsibility for your mistakes by focusing on what you have learned rather than what you have done wrong.

* Be organized - Plan your next day before you leave work. Rank your tasks urgency and importance.

* Be punctual - Arriving for work or meeting on time (even early) shows that you are enthusiastic, dependable and that you are able to manage your life effectively.

* Be Resourceful- Do not run to the boss with every question you have or setback you encounter. Think things through first. If you must repeat a problem to the boss, develop possible solutions to present to him.

* Broaden your horizons – Apply these tips to show that you are keen to learn and show how you are developing skills and pushing against the boundaries of your job role.

* Stay Informed – keep abreast of company trends. Stay up to date with current trends and knowledge advances in your area.Upgrade your skills and learn new ones.

* Be Courteous – Show respect and loyalty to your boss and a speak well of him to others.Do not bad mouth him to any one.

* Be Flexible – Change is inevitable.Companies need people who can adapt and go with the flow.

* Be A Team Player – Show your boss and colleagues that you have their best interests at heart by being empathetic and offering to help out when they need it.

Ten Tips To Beat Procrastination

M.M.M.Ahmed, Editor, Proactive Personality Developer

* Visualize the outcome. Picture the benefits of completing your task. Imagine how good you'll feel once it's done.

* Turn off the TV and Internet. These are two of the greatest time-wasters. Unplug them until you've finished your task.

* Just do it for 10 minutes. It's usually far easier to start something you know will only go on for 10 minutes. Then, Once you've started it,you'll tend to work on for longer.

* Let go of perfectionism. If you're putting off starting a job because you want to get it perfect, set aside this goal and forge ahead as if your aim is to do it imperfectly. You can always improve it later.

* Constant reminders. Set a timer to go off, say, every hour as you're working, so you can stay aware of how fast time is passing.

* Make it fun. Do the most(or least painful) part of the task first. This will get you into the swing of it.

* Catch yourself procrastinating. Watch for the moment when you first put off a task. If you can resist that first impulse to delay, it's far easier trying to fight it later. Resisting procrastination can also become a habit.

* Do you secretly like procrastinating? Are you addicted to the rush of completing a task just in time?If you are,try giving yourself just a little bit more time by creating your own deadline, which is earlier than the real one,so that you have a margin of safety. Get into the habit of starting a project as early as you can, rather than as late you dare.

* Accept mistakes as inevitable. Fear of making a mistake can deter you from making a start on a new task. Remind yourself that mistakes are a natural , unavoidable part of life that could ultimately teach you how to do something better.

* Should you really be doing the task? Sometimes procrastination can be a subconscious sign that you want to avoid the activity altogether(beyond sheer laziness). Re-assess whether you really want or need to perform the task.

Twelve Tips To Be Good Communicators

M.M.M.Ahmed, Editor, Proactive Personality Developer

*Good communicators are self-confident people who have good self-esteem.

*Good communicators are people who believe they are worth being listened to.

*Good communicators are people who like to hear the views and opinions of others.

*Good communicators are able to both take and give criticism without feeling hurt.

*Good communicators are assertive people who are able to express themselves without getting angry.

*Good communicators are people who encourage others to express their feelings .

* Good communictors are people who have the ability to understand others.

* Good communicators plan how to interact with the other persons.

* Good communicators have a greater awareness of other people.

* Good communicators are more sensitive towards their emotions and attitudes.

* Good communicators carefully observe other people.

* Good communicators have a greater self-Knowledge.

Twelve Tips to Be Good Listeners

M.M.M.Ahmed,Editor,Proactive Personality Developer

* Stop what you are doing and listen. Don’t be tempted to do two things at once.

* Turn off all negative thoughts you have about the speaker.

* Actively listen for ideas.

* Do not interrupt.

* Start listening with the first word and then listen intently.

* Think at the speed they are talking, don't jump ahead.

* Find an area of interest.

* Judge the content and not the delivery.

* Resist distractions if you possibly can.

* Suspend your judgment and keep an open mind.

* Listening involves the ability to understand what is being said.

* Listening is an essential part of being a good communicator.

Six Symptoms Of Cancer

M.M.M.Ahmed, Editor,Proactive Personality Developer

* A lump, or a sore which does not heal, including one in the mouth.

* A mole which changes in shape,size or colour.

* Any abnormal bleeding.

* A persistent cough or hoarseness.

* Changes in bowel movements.

* Any unexplained weight loss

Nine Symptoms Of Diabetes

M.M.M.Ahmed, Editor, Proactive Personality Developer

* Needing to pass water often, particularly at night.

* Being thirsty most of the time, or hungry.

* Unexpectedly losing weight.

* Lacking energy, feeling tired and drowsy.

* Having blurred vision.

* Tingling or numbness in legs, feet or fingers.

* Recurring skin. gum and/or urinary tract infections.

* Slow- healing cuts and bruises

* Frequent itching of skin and/ or genitals

Avoid Negative Body Language Signals

M.M.M.Ahmed,Editor,Proactive Personality Developer

* Nervous mannerisms,nail biting, finger and foot tapping, playing with hair, adjusting clothing, smoothing eyebrows.

* Playing with objects and personal effects like rings and pencils indicates tension.

* Pointing at people, waving your fist, thumping the table indicates aggression and tension.

* Touching the face indicates negative emotions like guilt,self doubt irritation.

* Touching the chin and mouth indicates doubt,reluctance to speak or accept what is being said.

* Touching the nose indicates lying.

* Touching the eye indicates not liking what you are seeing.

* Touching the ears indicates not liking what you are hearing

Smoking and Pregnancy

M.M.M.Ahmed, Proactive Personality Developer
Here are some of the facts about smoking and pregnancy

* Stop smoking three months before trying to conceive-men and women.

* If you need to feel something in your mouth, chew sugar-free gum.

* If you smoke when you're pregnant you risk harming your unborn baby, having a miscarriage or giving birth to an underweight baby who is vulnerable to infections.

* The children of fathers who smoke 20 or more cigarette a day have a higher risk of cancer than children of non-smoking fathers. Smoking damages sperm, so prospective fathers should give up smoking.

*Smoking increases the Likelihood of cot death.

*No one should smoke in a house where there is baby or young child and don't let anyone who is smoking hold your child.

Problems With Bottle- Feeding

M.M.M.Ahmed,Proactive Personality Developer

* The posset from a bottle-fed baby has an unpleasant smell, as do the stools.

* Some babies are allergic to the alien protein in cow's milk. There are soya substitutes for babies with allergic; nursing mothers in families with a history of eczema or asthma are advised to breast-feed or use these substitutes.

* The Sterilization of bottle-feeding equipment and the careful preparation of feeds are time-consuming compared to the accessibility of breast-milk.

* Bottle-fed babies are more prone to gastric infections than breast- fed babies,who receive some protection from their mothers' milk.

* The cost of formula milk, bottles, teats and sterilizing equipment is substantial, whereas breast-milk is free and is always available.

Disadvantages of Living on your back for Delivery

M.M.M.Ahmed,Proactive Personality Developer

If you lie on your back

* Your blood pressure may drop, thus reducing the amount of blood and oxygen to the baby.

* Pain is greater in this position than if you can be vertical.

* Pain is greater in this position than if you can be vertical.

* There is a greater need for an episiotomy.

* There is an increased chance of your having a forceps delivery.

* It inhibits spontaneous delivery of the placenta.

* There is a greater possibility of low back strain in this position

Advantages and Disadvantages of Being A Working Mother

M.M.M.Ahmed,ProactivePersonality Developer

Advantages

* Increased independence.

* Financial rewards-the chance to raise the standard of living of your family.

* Career fulfilment-the chances to use whatever training and qualifications you may have.

* More intense interaction with your child when you are at home.

* Intellectual need to work-you may feel bored and lonely at home.

* Ability to maintain a high profile in your chosen field of work.

Disadvantages

* Sense of guilt and inadequacy because you feel you are neglecting your child.

* Isolation from the community.

* Extreme tiredness because you will be juggling two jobs at once.

* Great Stress due to dual responsibilities and the need to be constantly planning ahead.

* Resentment of the other full-time mothers in your community.

* Difficulty and concerns about finding and keeping good children.

Twelve Reasons For Getting More Active

M.M.M.Ahmed,Editor,Proactive Personality Developer

* To feel happier.

* To boost your brain power.

* To have more energy.

* To cope better under stress.

* To give you more confidence.

* To cut your risk of coronary heart diseases.

* To reduce your risk of osteoporosis.

* To improve your metabolism.

* To slow down the ageing process.

* To perk up your Skin tone.

* To walk up a flight of stairs without getting out of breath.

*To feel good about yourself

Ten Harmful Emotions and their Antidotes

M.M.M.Ahmed, Editor, Proactive Personality Developer

Harmful Emotions

* Anger

* Blame

* Hostility

* Hate

* Revenge

* Jealousy

* Resentment

* Suspicion

* Indifference

Antidotes

* Empathy

* Understanding

* Sympathy

* Patience

* Tolerance

* Kindness

* Forgiveness

* Forget Bad Past

* Enjoy Good Present

* Expect Better Future

Ten Thoughts That Can Make You Unhappy

M.M.M.Ahmed, Editor,Proactive Personality Developer.

* Theirs is better.(comparing)

* I want more... and more.(greed)

* If it's not black it must be white.(all-or-nothing)

* If it's not perfect it's no good.(perfectionism)

* Why is this always happening to me?(exaggeration)

* I'm not going to like this.(jumping to negative conclusions)

*I feel it, so it must be true.(emotional reasoning)

* I'm a label, you're a label. (labelling)

* I should do this, you should do that.(obligation)

* If it's wrong it must be my fault.(wrongly taking responsibility)

Top Ten Tips For Forgiveness

What Mr.Mohammed Masood Mohiuddin,Editor,Proactive Personality Developer says about forgiveness.

*If you forgive others, you are forgiven by Almighty and you get peace of mind.

*If you don't forgive others,your prayers will not be accepted by Almighty .

* If you forgive others, you are a winner.

* If you don’t forgive others, you are a loser.

* If you forgive others, you will not carry emotional weight from the grudge and your blood pressure will be normal.

* If you forgive others you have to accept the things you can’t change and change the things you can.

* The person with whom you are engaged in conflict would either welcome your forgiveness or would forgive you too.

*Forgiveness does not mean excusing bad behavior ,rather it means that you are prepared to move forward and let go your bitterness towards the other person.

* You can’t change the fact that the conflict occurred but you can change your response to the conflict .

* Be Bold to Learn Forget and Forgive.

Ten Top Tips For Confidence

What late Mr.Mohammed Ghouse Mohiuddin(G.M.Uruj),Editor, Confidence , English Weekly used to say about Confidence.

By Mr.Mohammed Masood Mohiuddin(Younger Brother), Editor Proactive Personality Developer, English Monthly.

* The person who has confidence in himself or herself gains the confidence of others.

* Having the courage to achieve what you want is confidence.

* Believing that you are as capable as next person is confidence.

* Having the ability to act confidently when you are feeling low is confidence.

* Acknowledging when you have make a mistake is confidence .

* Not worrying about what others people think of you is confidence .

* Not letting anyone intimidate you is confidence.

*Having the ability to talk to anyone about anything is confidence .

* Feeling happy and contended within yourself is confidence.

*Banishing self- doubt and boosting self esteem is confidence.

Ten Top Tips For Positive Thinking

What late Mr.& Mrs.Mohammed Khadir Mohiuddin Ahmed,Editor ,
Cooperative Herald, English Weekly used to say about positive thinking.

By Mr. Mohammed Masood Mohiuddin(Son), Editor Proactive Personality Developer,English Monthly.

* Positive Thinking aims to programme your attitude to attract success.

* Positive Thinking is very important because if your mind is not positively charged,success will not be attracted to it

* Positive Thinking awakens the sleeping energy within you.

*Positive Thinking turns your goals into realities .

*Positive Thinking enables you to control your time.

*Positive Thinking enables you to handle worry and fear .

*Positive Thinking enables you to plan intelligently .

*Positive Thinking enables you to learn from failures .

*Positive Thinking inspires and motivates you .

*Positive Thinking builds your confidence and makes you a winner .