Sunday, August 28, 2011

Five Steps To Set Smart Goals



M.M.M Ahmed, Editor, Proactive Personality Developer
Akber Bagh,New Malakpet,Hyderabad-India

There is a formula used by smart people for setting out their aims that can help anyone to be more effective in achieving success.

When defining your own goals, make sure they are SMART as exemplified below:

* Specific: I shall go to the gym for an hour at 4 PM. (Not: I am planning to get more exercise)

* Measurable: I shall substitute one portion of fruit for a chocolate bar everyday this week. (not: I shall eat more fruit from now on)

* Achievable: I have decided to cut out fatty meats, burgers, fried foods and takeaways. (not: I am going to avoid all saturated fat.)

* Realistic: I shall take a deep breath whenever my partner irritates me. (not: I am never going to argue again.)

* Timely: I am starting a diet on Monday and aiming to lose a few centimeters from my waste by April 7. (not: I want a 66 CM waist)

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

12 Symptoms of Depression and How to Control them



M.M.M Ahmed, Editor, Proactive Personality Developer
Akber Bagh,New Malakpet,Hyderabad-India

* Low mood and inability to concentrate.

* Feeling sad and tired most of the time.

* Inability to enjoy things that initially used to bring pleasure.

* Irritability or anxiety.

* Withdrawal from family and friends.

* Weight loss or gain.

* Sleeping excessively.

* Thoughts of death or suicide.

* Pessimism or low self-esteem or feeling of guilt or worthlessness.

* Aches and pains with no medical causes.

* Not wanting to do anything or seeing anybody.

* Isolation and sensitivity to rejection.

* Depression leads to suicide, suicide leads to hell and that is the worst end.

How to Control Depression

* Believe in The Almighty, pray and hope for the best.

* Do social service to please the Almighty and feel better about yourself.

* Pursue whatever hobbies or pastimes that can bring you joy.

* Keep yourself busy as an idle brain is devil's workshop.

* Forget the bad people and remember the good people to keep you happy.

* Learn something that sparks your imagination and creativity.

* Laughter provides a mood boost, watch a comedy or read a funny book.

* Don't stay cooped up at home all day. Go to the park for a brisk walk and go for head and body massage.

* Have a lunch with friends to enjoy the life.

* Invite the loved ones to visit you and keep in touch over the phone.

* Forget the bad past and expect the bright future.

* Forgive others to be forgiven by the Almighty.

* Be realistic. Expecting too much leads to depression.

* Count the plus points of life not the minus points to be happy

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

25 Techniques of World Top Achievers’ Time Management



M.M.M Ahmed, Editor, Proactive Personality Developer
Akber Bagh,New Malakpet,Hyderabad-India

Top world achievers shared the following characteristics about time management techniques:

•Solve the problems instead of blaming each other to save time.

•Mentally rehearse actions and events for excellence.

•Know when to start and when to stop to be well organized.

•Take interesting holidays for better quality and more quantity of work.

•Know how to develop and delegate the sub-ordinates for maximum work in minimum time.

•Avoid unnecessary details. Make all-out efforts in the right direction with target.

•Live for today and not for tomorrow. Being well prepared today ensures a brighter tomorrow.

•Follow the time management priority orderly.
1Important and urgent. 2. Important and not urgent. 3. Not important but urgent. 4. Not urgent and not important

•Set time limits for meetings with clear agenda. Make time for your boss and subordinates.

•Neither interrupt your boss nor subordinates unnecessarily.

•Clarify the key priorities with your boss and explain to your subordinates.

•If you fail to plan, plan to fail for sure. Planning with a strategy is a must.

•Organize your files and forward them without delay.

•Don’t allow casual visitors to save time. Monitor phone calls to prevent interruptions.

•Keep appointments on time apart from emergencies.

•Solve the problems and make yourself available when needed .Set deadlines and work accordingly.

•Plan ‘quite times’ regularly for reflection and long term work.

•Help others to improve time management skills. Stop and assess your time management performance.

•Reward yourself and others for time management techniques success.

If you waste your time, time will waste you

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Thursday, June 9, 2011

What Happens When You Are Angry?



M.M.M Ahmed, Editor, Proactive Personality Developer
Akber Bagh,New Malakpet,Hyderabad-India


Scientific Changes

• Increased Blood Pressure Increased Heart Rate.
• Spasm of Arteries, Increased Acid in Stomach.
• Increased Breathing Rate, Sweating.
• Slow Digestion, Depressed Immunity.
• Increased Fat in Blood, Back pain and Shoulder Pain.
• Tense Facial Muscles, Angina, Heart Attack.

Behavioural Changes

• Tense, Anxious, Shouting, Nose Bleeding.
• Crying, Bitterness, Making Threat, Hostile Jokes.
• Breaking Objects. Tear Clothes.
• Smash Mirrors/TV. Crush Papers.
• Destroy Toys, Throw Books/Shoes.
• Slap Someone, Clenched Fist, Stop Talking for days.

Long Term Losses

• Bad Reputation, Loss of Good Friends.
• Bad Family Relationships, Divorce.
• Loss of Business, Loss of Emotional Support, Bad Health, Depression.
• Creation of Enemy-Most Loves Becomes Most Hated, Court Cases.

Advantages of Reduction of Anger

• Improved Relationship at Home, Office and Society.
• Enemy can turn into a friend. Grossly reduces the chances of divorce.
• You will not hate any one. Hatred is the worst enemy of your life.
• Good Health, Smiling Face and Happiness.
• Increased Mental Strength.

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Sunday, February 13, 2011

Fifteen Effective Tips to Reduce Weight to Get Rid of All Diseases



M.M.M Ahmed,Editor,Proactive Personality Developer.
Akber Bagh,New Malakpet,Hyderabad-India

• Eat when you are hungry. Don’t eat when you are not hungry.
• Eat what you really want. Never what you think you should.
• Eat consciously and enjoy every mouthful without watching TV, internet, cell and talking too much, otherwise you will eat too much.
• Eat slowly to reduce eating speed to reduce food. Chew at least twenty times.
• The more you chew you feel your jaw tired and you stop eating to reduce weight.
• The slower you eat the sooner the signal from stomach goes to brain indicating you’re your stomach is full and stop eating to reduce weight.
• Stop when you even think you are full. Don’t overload your digestive system to get rid of all diseases.
• First drink water if you are hungry. If you are still hungry then eat food. Don’t drink water during eating to protect your digestive system.
• Leave the food on plate if you can’t eat. Don’t eat too much even if the food is left on plate to protect your digestive system.
• Don’t diet. Dieting is the enemy of weight loss. If you diet you will gain weight and keep it on for whole life.
• Move your body by any exercise to burn the body fat and to make your muscles strong.
• Imagine you are losing weight and becoming slimmer day by day (Mind Programming).
• Check your weight once in a month, observe how much weight you have already reduced and how much more weight you have to reduce to make your Body Mass Index (BMI) less than 25.
• BMI=Weight in kilogram divided by (Height in square metre).
• Eat vegetables, fruits, white meat. Eat less bakery products, chocolates, soft drinks, fast food, red meat and potato chips.

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Sunday, January 9, 2011

An Open Letter From Satan To A Child .All Children Must Read It



M.M.M.Ahmed, Editor,Proactive Personality Developer

I saw you yesterday as you began your daily chores.
You awoke without going to pray. As a matter of fact,
you didn't even bless your meals, or pray before going
to bed last night. You are so unthankful. I like that about you.

I cannot tell you how glad I am that you have not changed
your way of living. Fool! You are mine. Remember, you and I
have been going steady for years, and I still don't love you yet.
As a matter of fact, I hate you, because I hate The Almighty I am only
using you to get even with The Almighty. He kicked me out of heaven,
and I'm going to use you as long as possible to pay him back.

You see, Fool, The Almighty LOVES YOU and HE has great plans
in store for you. But you have yielded your life to me and I'm
going to make your life a living hell. That way we'll be together twice.
This will really hurt The Almighty. Thanks to you. I'm really showing Him who's
boss in your life. With all of the good times we've had.....
We have been watching dirty movies, cursing people out,
partying, stealing, lying, hypocriting, fornicating, overeating,
telling dirty jokes, gossiping, backstabbing people,
disrespecting adults and those in leadership position,
NO respect for the praying place, bad attitudes:
SURELY you don't want to give all this up.

Come on, Fool, let's burn together forever. I've got some
hot plans for us. This is just a letter of appreciation from me
to you. I'd like to say "THANKS" for letting me use you for
most of your foolish life. You are so gullible. I laugh at you.
When you are tempted to sin, you give in. HA HA HA
You make me sick.

Sin is beginning to take its toll on your life.
You look 20 years older. I need new blood. So go ahead
and teach some children how to sin. All you have to do is smoke,
drink alcoholic beverages, cheat, gamble, gossip, fornicate,
and listen to and dance to the top 10 jams. Do all of this in the
presence of children and they will do it too. Kids are like that.

Well, Fool, I have to let you go for now. I'll be back in a couple of
seconds to tempt you again. If you were smart, you would run somewhere,
confess your sins, live for The Almighty with what little bit of life that you have
left. It's not my nature to warn anyone, but to be your age and still
sinning, it's becoming a bit ridiculous. Don't get me wrong, I still hate you......

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P.S. - And if you really love me, you won't share this letter with anyone.

Saturday, December 4, 2010

An Open Letter From Mom and Dad to a Child. All children must read it.




M.M.M.Ahmed, Editor,Proactive Personality Developer

When I get old, I hope you understand and have patience with me

In case I break a plate,
or spill soup on the table because I'm losing my eyesight,
I hope you don't yell at me.
Older people are sensitive.
..always having selfpity when you yell

When my hearing gets worse and i cant hear what you're saying,
I hope you don't call me "Deaf!"
please repeat what you said or write it down

I'm sorry, my Child.
...I'm getting older
When my knees get weaker,
I hope you have the patience to help me get up
Like how I used to help you while you were little,
Learning how to walk.

Please bear with me
When I keep repeating myself like a broken record,
I hope you just keep listening to me
Please don't make fun of me
or
get sick of listening to me

Do you remember when you were little and you wanted a balloon?
You repeated youself over and over until you got what you wanted

...... Please also pardon my smell.
I smell like an old person
Please don't force me to shower.
My body is weak.

Old people get sick easily when they're cold.
I hope i don't gross you out.

Do you remember when you were little?
I used to chase you around because you didn't want to shower.

I hope you can be patient with me
When I'm always cranky
It's all part of getting old.
You'll understand when you're older

And if you have spare time,
I hope we can talk, Even for a few minutes

I'm always all by myself all the time.
and have no one to talk to
I know you're busy with work
Even if you're not interested in my stories,
Please have time for me.

Do you remember when you were little?
I used to listen to your stories about your teddy bear.
When the time comes and I get ill and bedridden,
I hope you have the patience to take care of me.

IM SORRY
if i accidentally wet the bed or make a mess
I hope you have the patience to take care of me during the last few moments of my life
Im not going to last much longer, anyways
When the time of my death comes,
I hope you hold my hand and give me the strength to face death
And don't worry...
When i finally meet our Creator...
I will whisper in His ear
to BLESS you

Because you loved your Mom and Dad.
Thanks you so much for your care.
We love you.

with much love,
Your Loving Mom and Dad